Monday, October 10, 2011

35 weeks...

How Far Along:35 weeks

Size of baby: a honeydew=)



Total Weight Gain/Loss: It feels like a LOT! But I'm not worrying about it right now.

Maternity Clothes: Moving into Fall wear =)

Gender: Sweet baby girl!!!!!

Movement: Every day! I'm pretty sure she is a ninja. It's crazy to watch my stomach move!

What I miss: Energy and being able to breath normally

Sleep: I've accepted the fact that it will probably be a LONG time before I get a good night's sleep again.

Symptoms: same as last time- My back pain has come back with a vengeance and bad hip cramping. Also, lots of heartburn lately. Also, lots of Braxton Hicks contractions lately!

Cravings: Still cold cereal the most and grape kool-aid.

Best Moment this week: Going to our childbirth class on Saturday! We learned a lot and made things seem SO real!

What we are looking forward to: Her actually being here! We will pack our hospital bags this coming weekend and we have our hospital tour tomorrow. I can't believe I will be 9 months pregnant this weekend!

35Week Picture:

Saturday, October 8, 2011

Jumping on my soapbox...

What's a blog for if you can't update it with a few of your own personal pet peeves and opinions? With that being said, sorry if this post offends anyone, it's not my intention, just something that really bugs me personally. Also, there are very few things I feel strongly enough about to actually put my opinion out there, but this happens to be one of them for whatever reason.

Anyhoo...every morning I generally make my commute to work listening to The Bert Show. Well, a story was brought up this week that has been stuck like a broken record in my mind ever since it was played. It's a story about a middle school boy being better at football than the rest of his team, so he gets punished for his talent by banning him from playing if he scores more than 3 touchdowns. The gist or theme of the story is about the "wussification" of today's youth. I could not agree more!! Not at all just because of this story, there are SOOO many reasons why I agree that the next generation is being "wussified" and I will list a few later. First, here is the news video of the middle school football player in case you want to see what I'm talking about:


There are a couple of reasons why this particular story gets under my skin:
1) This kid obviously has natural, God-given athletic talent and has most likely worked very hard to be as good as he is at football. So, why in the world punish him for that?!
2) When the principal is defending the Madre Hill rule by stating "so the other kids can develop their football skills too" and get some play time is ridiculous.
a)Apply that logic to real life. When a these kids grow up and enter the work force, and someone happens to outshine the rest, is he/she going to be reprimanded for doing a good job and asked to take a step back while they let others catch up to their level? No. They will be/should be rewarded for their hard work. If not, what would be the incentive for anyone to strive for excellence? And consider the consequences of having a generation with no one willing to make the effort to shine!

This story in particular is just a brief snapshot of the "wussification" movement. There are SO many things going on in schools, youth sports leagues, and parenting techniques that contribute to this nonsense. And if I'm being honest, this is one of the top 3 reasons it is a tough decision to teach right now. I simply do not agree with everything that is going on to make sure everyone is "equal" and no feelings are hurt. Because we all know how devastating it would be for a child to have their feelings hurt, despite it being for something they did and should take responsibility for. Of course now, "responsibility" is a curse word unless it is being placed on someone other than the person it should apply too. Here are some things I can think of off the top of my head that are going on in schools that are just so ridiculous:
1) No grading in red ink. It's preferable that a teacher use purple or something equally less 'offensive' because we do not want students to feel any shame associated with a failing grade. After all, we are all winners right?

2) Snowballing off of that...this is at least true in elementary schools up to 4th grade, but no one can really "fail" any more. The grading scale is no longer A,B,C,D,F it is a 3+ through 1 scale, where 3+ is exceeding standards and expectations and a 1 is not meeting the standards or expectations. I have even heard in some cases where a student cannot receive a '0' on an assignment anymore, it must be listed as a 50 in the grade book.

3) Let's say a student is a HUGE distraction. Throwing fits, possibly throwing objects, crying, yelling, running around the classroom while the teacher is trying to teach (you may laugh and think this doesn't happen...not only have I experienced it on several occasions in my VERY limited time in the classroom, I suggest visiting an inclusion class for a day and see what behavior is acceptable now), what is the teacher to do? Call the principal? No, they generally ask that the teacher handle this behavior in the classroom. Take them outside in the hall for a chat? No, that is singling out the student and could also get the teacher in trouble for leaving the rest of her students unattended. Move their desk away from others, either next to the teacher's desk or in a more secluded area of the classroom where they are less of a distraction to others? Absolutely not, as this could possibly hurt their feelings and make them feel isolated from their peers. So, instead you either spend several minutes of valuable instruction time calmly trying to reason with the student to sit back at their desk, or simply try to ignore and hope that they eventually get over it and go sit down somewhere.
This is exactly how things were handled while we were in school, right?! YEAH RIGHT! No one would have dared acted that way, and if they had the nerve enough to they certainly had to face the consequences of either the principal's office, a phone call home, AND having their desk moved. But now 1,000,000 different excuses are used to allow this type of behavior, "he's on medication and he just forgot to take it today," "he's really gifted and needs more of a challenge, he's acting out because he's bored," "Something must have been said or done to him to make him that upset," "he's an only child, so he's not use to having to wait his turn." Trust me, there's lots more! And I'm not pulling these out of thin air, these are quotes I've personally witnessed, which is scary because I haven't even been in my own classroom yet! This is all just from student teaching experience! I can't imagine all the fun stuff teachers hear on a daily basis! It just drives me CRAZY that no one will say "You know what, that behavior is entirely unacceptable and I'm so embarrassed that my child acted that way in your classroom and took away from your teaching. We will discuss this and take care of it at home, and please let me know if this behavior continues so we can put an end to it more quickly." And then how nice would it be if the student had to own up to their misbehavior with a follow-up apology to the class and teacher. Heaven forbid they be put on the spot for a few minutes to take responsibility for their actions. Again, we'd hate for anyone to have their feelings hurt.
***And let me say, there are legitimate cases where kids really cannot help this kind of behavior, however, the ones I am talking about can and should.

4) No winners or losers. Granted, for young kids playing sports, this is totally fine. But kids today are growing up where everyone wins! We don't want anyone to feel like they're not a winner so they all get trophies. And you may be thinking to yourself "just wait until your own kids loses"... but you know what? There is such a valuable lesson in losing! Sometimes, it's going to happen and you have to learn how to pick yourself back up, dust yourself off and go out and try harder next time! It's also important to learn how to congratulate the winner and not run off pouting that you "just won't play anymore."

There are several other examples but this post is long enough (if you've even made it this far). Things have changed so much in the past decade or so, and it is just so worrisome to think of what the outcome will be as this coddling continues. These kids are our future, which should truly terrify us. They are not encouraged to really try hard at anything or actually work toward goals. Everything is all made so easy and when things are made difficult, it is generally quickly altered so that everyone can meet the goal, and not just those who strive for success. Mediocrity seems to be the new goal that everyone is doing so well at attaining, and I can only imagine the bar the next generation will set for their kids!

Wednesday, September 28, 2011

Sunday, September 25, 2011

Friend Shower...

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Last weekend some sweet friends, Joy, Jennifer, and Jill all hosted an adorable shower for me! They did such an excellent job decorating and making such delicious food! The cake that Jeneane made was SO cute!! Several of the NWeds girls were out of town, so I missed seeing everyone, but we all had such a wonderful time anyway! One of the games played was making playdough babies and I had to judge the best baby and I think Jennifer won. After catching up with everyone and eating, it was time for gifts! For the third time, we were blessed with so many sweet gifts! We have been blown away the whole pregnancy by everyone's thoughtfulness and generosity! It's been awesome for sure! Caroline received several cute outfits, ADORABLE crocheted hats and diaper cover from Jeneane, books, the Moby wrap which I desperately wanted, the boppy pillow, crib wedge, baby food items, changing pad and covers, and much more! I had a wonderful time and this was such a sweet way to wrap up our baby showers! Now we are picking up the last of a few needed items and then miss Caroline will be here before we know it!! Only 49 days to go =)

Georgia Family Shower...

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Two weeks ago (a bit behind on blogging) my sweet mother-in-law and sister-in-law and family friend Sandra, hosted a wonderful shower for Caroline and me. The decorations and food were fabulous!! They did such a great job making the shower so special! Before gift opening, we played a fun candy game where Cindy gave a clue and we had to guess what candy it might be. I had my eye on the Zero bar, since that's my favorite candy bar, and so I waited and watched it like hawk so as soon as the clue was given I won it. It was such fun! We were beyond blessed by so many awesome gifts from everyone! We got SO many bibs and bows, which was the theme of the shower, and tons of cute outfits, diapers (disposable and cloth which is awesome), toys, ans so much more. Katie gave such and sweet gift by making a bib and burp cloth with coordinating hairbow for each month of the year! I LOVE it!! Cindy also gave something special, Greg's old Sesame Street plate and cup from when he was a kid, along with a beautiful plaid dress and two cloth diapers! It was such a wonderful shower and I truly appreciate them doing this for me!!

Sunday, September 18, 2011

32 Weeks...




How Far Along:32 weeks (7/8 Months)

Size of baby: a squash=)


Total Weight Gain/Loss: It feels like a LOT! But I'm not worrying about it right now.

Maternity Clothes: I'm moving out of all my summer stuff and I'm in a weird in between phase. It's getting close to circus tent wear =)

Gender: Sweet baby girl!!!!!

Movement: Every day! We have been able to feel her roll over and stuff now which is really neat.

What I miss: Energy.

Sleep: It could be better, it could be worse...but I'm enjoying the sleep I do get! However, it's been pretty rough lately! So, I've moved over to the recliner in the nursery several nights now. I have a feeling I'll be spending a good bit of time in that over the next several weeks.

Symptoms: same as last time- My back pain has come back with a vengeance and bad hip cramping. Also, lots of heartburn lately.

Cravings: Chocolate milk, cold cereal, and fruit, especially melon.

Best Moment this week: Having my parents in town and going to my 3rd and final shower with sweet friends!

What we are looking forward to: Our date night to see Wicked next weekend and getting ready for our breastfeeding and childbirth classes!

31 (this was last week, I'll try to remember to take one of this week )Week Picture:

Tuesday, September 13, 2011

50 Rules for Dads of Daughters...

This post comes from this blog. A friend posted this on facebook and I thought it was to sweet not to share! My heart could absolutely explode with joy every time I think about what an awesome daddy Greg is going to be and how lucky our kids are going to be to have him! It also makes me feel so blessed to have been raised by a dad who followed so many of these "rules"! Anyway, here are 50 Rules for Dads of Daughters...

1. Love her mom. Treat her mother with respect, honor, and a big heaping spoonful of public displays of affection. When she grows up, the odds are good she’ll fall in love with and marry someone who treats her much like you treated her mother. Good or bad, that’s just the way it is. I’d prefer good.


2. Always be there. Quality time doesn’t happen without quantity time. Hang out together for no other reason than just to be in each other’s presence. Be genuinely interested in the things that interest her. She needs her dad to be involved in her life at every stage. Don’t just sit idly by while she add years to her… add life to her years.


3. Save the day. She’ll grow up looking for a hero. It might as well be you. She’ll need you to come through for her over and over again throughout her life. Rise to the occasion. Red cape and blue tights optional.


4. Savor every moment you have together. Today she’s crawling around the house in diapers, tomorrow you’re handing her the keys to the car, and before you know it, you’re walking her down the aisle. Some day soon, hanging out with her old man won’t be the bees knees anymore. Life happens pretty fast. You better cherish it while you can.


5. Pray for her. Regularly. Passionately. Continually.


6. Buy her a glove and teach her to throw a baseball. Make her proud to throw like a girl… a girl with a wicked slider.


7. She will fight with her mother. Choose sides wisely.


8. Go ahead. Buy her those pearls.


9. Of course you look silly playing peek-a-boo. You should play anyway.


10. Enjoy the wonder of bath time.


11. There will come a day when she asks for a puppy. Don’t over think it. At least one time in her life, just say, “Yes.”


12. It’s never too early to start teaching her about money. She will still probably suck you dry as a teenager… and on her wedding day.


13. Make pancakes in the shape of her age for breakfast on her birthday. In a pinch, donuts with pink sprinkles and a candle will suffice.


14. Buy her a pair of Chucks as soon as she starts walking. She won’t always want to wear matching shoes with her old man.


15. Dance with her. Start when she’s a little girl or even when she’s a baby. Don’t wait ‘til her wedding day.


16. Take her fishing. She will probably squirm more than the worm on your hook. That’s OK.


17. Learn to say no. She may pitch a fit today, but someday you’ll both be glad you stuck to your guns.


18. Tell her she’s beautiful. Say it over and over again. Someday an animated movie or “beauty” magazine will try to convince her otherwise.


19. Teach her to change a flat. A tire without air need not be a major panic inducing event in her life. She’ll still call you crying the first time it happens.


20. Take her camping. Immerse her in the great outdoors. Watch her eyes fill with wonder the first time she sees the beauty of wide open spaces. Leave the iPod at home.


21. Let her hold the wheel. She will always remember when daddy let her drive.


22. She’s as smart as any boy. Make sure she knows that.


23. When she learns to give kisses, she will want to plant them all over your face. Encourage this practice.


24. Knowing how to eat sunflower seeds correctly will not help her get into a good college. Teach her anyway.


25. Letting her ride on your shoulders is pure magic. Do it now while you have a strong back and she’s still tiny.


26. It is in her nature to make music. It’s up to you to introduce her to the joy of socks on a wooden floor.


27. If there’s a splash park near your home, take her there often. She will be drawn to the water like a duck to a puddle.


28. She will eagerly await your return home from work in the evenings. Don’t be late.


29. If her mom enrolls her in swim lessons, make sure you get in the pool too. Don’t be intimidated if there are no other dads there. It’s their loss.


30. Never miss her birthday. In ten years she won’t remember the present you gave her. She will remember if you weren’t there.


31. Teach her to roller skate. Watch her confidence soar.


32. Let her roll around in the grass. It’s good for her soul. It’s not bad for yours either.


33. Take her swimsuit shopping. Don’t be afraid to veto some of her choices, but resist the urge to buy her full-body beach pajamas.


34. Somewhere between the time she turns three and her sixth birthday, the odds are good that she will ask you to marry her. Let her down gently.


35. She’ll probably want to crawl in bed with you after a nightmare. This is a good thing.


36. Few things in life are more comforting to a crying little girl than her father’s hand. Never forget this.


37. Introduce her to the swings at your local park. She’ll squeal for you to push her higher and faster. Her definition of “higher and faster” is probably not the same as yours. Keep that in mind.


38. When she’s a bit older, your definition of higher and faster will be a lot closer to hers. When that day comes, go ahead… give it all you’ve got.


39. Holding her upside down by the legs while she giggles and screams uncontrollably is great for your biceps. WARNING: She has no concept of muscle fatigue.


40. She might ask you to buy her a pony on her birthday. Unless you live on a farm, do not buy her a pony on her birthday. It’s OK to rent one though.


41. Take it easy on the presents for her birthday and Christmas. Instead, give her the gift of experiences you can share together.


42. Let her know she can always come home. No matter what.


43. Remember, just like a butterfly, she too will spread her wings and fly some day. Enjoy her caterpillar years.


44. Write her a handwritten letter every year on her birthday. Give them to her when she goes off to college, becomes a mother herself, or when you think she needs them most.


45. Learn to trust her. Gradually give her more freedom as she gets older. She will rise to the expectations you set for her.


46. When in doubt, trust your heart. She already does.


47. When your teenage daughter is upset, learning when to engage and when to back off will add years to YOUR life. If you succeed in doing this, tell me how.


48. Ice cream covers over a multitude of sins. Know her favorite flavor.


49. This day is coming soon. There’s nothing you can do to be ready for it. The sooner you accept this fact, the easier it will be.


50. Today she’s walking down the driveway to get on the school bus. Tomorrow she’s going off to college. Don’t blink.